This is a slightly sarcastic post meant to explore some habits which sabotage organizing efforts. See if any apply to you!
1. Just Resign Yourself to the Fact that You Will Never Get Organized! After all, if it's possible for a busy mom to get organized, you will be forced to think about (gasp) changing! You may even need to look or ask for help! Do you really want to get organized anyway?
2. Wait Until School is Out, the Car is Fixed, or You Feel up To It, so that You Can Do It All at Once and Be Done! Never mind that trying to do everything at once will so exhaust and discourage you that you might let that box of old clothes sit in the garage for another two years. It may have taken years for things to get the way they are, but you're going to zap it like a fairy with a magic wand, and make your organizing dream will come true! Once you get organized, you won't ever have to do it again, anyway!
3. Admit That You are the Most Unorganized Person Ever and it Would Take a Miracle to Ever Get it Perfect! Admit defeat, rather than suffer humiliation or endure challenges. It might be interesting to learn new and different ways of doing things so that you can spend more time doing what you love and what's important to you, but is it really worth the effort?
4. Don't Allow Yourself the Luxury of Planning to Take Breaks or Treat Yourself. Who are you kidding! You are far too busy to get organized, much less take a break! No, spending time watching TV and eating snacks is about all you have time and energy to do at the end of the day! Planning is impossible in your family, so you have to just go with the flow and hope for relaxing moments to pop up here and there!
5. Let your Kids be Kids, and Constantly Clean up FOR THEM. Plus, If You are Blessed to be Married, DON'T ask Your Spouse for Help . Let them learn on their own when they grow up, and realize that your husband isn't going to do it "right, " anyway. The kids will see what drag it is to keep up with things and will someday appreciate your willing (ahem) sacrifices on their behalf. Besides, it is so frustrating waiting on them or your husband to do something, when you can do it ten times faster. Haven't you ever heard the saying that a mother's work is never done? (Never mind your aching back and feet!)
6. If You Experience Some Success in Organizing Efforts, but Experience Setbacks Along the Way, Say You Fell of the Bandwagon and Stop Trying. Give yourself an "A" for effort if you try. If it doesn't stick, maybe it just wasn't meant to be. Give up and move on!
7. Realize that It's Likely None of the Tips You Hear From the Experts Will Work for You! Don't bother trying to create a home for those keys, or setting up a reminder system, and whatever you do, don't try to use some type of planner--you've got everything up in your head! It's normal to have a tension headache most of the time!
I have been guilty of some version of each of these order-destroying thoughts and actions at one time or another. However, I have found that through using a proven system of ordering my life and home like a business, and sticking with it like a dog on a bone, making personality and situational tweaks along the way, that I have gained ROCK SOLID CONFIDENCE in my ability to continuously add order to more and more areas of our life. I so much wish the same for you! Which of these do you struggle with, or what unique situation are you in that needs special solutions?